confession time: I feel “too young” for solo travel

I’m trying to make plans for my summer.  Eastern Europe.  Poland, Ukraine, Romania, Bulgaria, and Greece.  I’ll start from the top and work my way down, flying out of either Greece or Istanbul at the end of the summer or when my money runs out, whichever comes first.

*90’s movie record scratch* But wait, back up.  I already have a plan for my summer.  I literally just told you it.  Poland, Ukraine, Romania, Bulgaria, and Greece.  Why do I act like I don’t know what I’ll be doing in 3 months time?  Why do I make jokes about my money running out when, as long as I don’t go crazy, it definitely shouldn’t?

I’m scared to commit to a solid plan, because in all honesty I feel too young to be going off on my own.

This feeling is akin to impostor syndrome, feeling like I have no right to be where I am.

Which is absolutely ridiculous.  I’m 21.  I know PLENTY of people who have traveled on their own by my age or younger.

So why do I still feel like I’m too young to travel on my own?

It’s a confidence thing, really.  I just need to do it.  I need to go, to prove myself that I can do it.

It’s just scary right now.  In my head I keep thinking “I should go home, get a summer job, see my younger cousins, hang out with my grandma“.  All very good excuses for not travelling this summer, but that’s what they are: excuses.

I know I need to go, because if I don’t I’ll regret it.  I just wish I didn’t feel so damn young.


Did you ever feel like you were “too young” for whatever you wanted to do?

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  • You’re not too young at all! 🙂 But honestly you’re really not alone thinking that way! I think we all do at some point. I started travelling alone when I was 18 and now I’m 24 I STILL feel like a spring chicken in some hostels and in the travel blogging community in general. It’s funny though because when I was 18 I’d see 24 year olds while travelling and think they seemed so old and wise and like they really have their shit together. Now that’s me and LOL yeah.

    • Victoria

      YES SAME. I remember planning trips at 19 and thinking “Wow when I graduate at 22 I’m going to be SO OLD and confident it’ll be great!!”. I guess travelling is just another case of “fake it til you make it”!

  • Amber

    Honestly, I feel the same. I am so nervous to travel by myself and am so scared to do my internship abroad this summer. I think we psych ourselves out much more than we need to do though. Like we are perfectly capable even though we may not necessarily feel like we are old enough. You have proven that just by being in Scotland.

    • Victoria

      TRUTH. We ARE capable of doing everything so we WILL. (Will using lots of caps lock make me more confident? Let’s hope so.)

  • Confidence is such a big thing! I didn’t take my first solo trip until my mid-twenties, and wished I’d been brave enough to go sooner. I had no idea how to go about it, so I spent some time on a group tour – it really helped bridge the gap between totally solo travel and still having people around!

    • Victoria

      you commented at the perfect time: I’m currently on my first real solo day of travel! Group tours sound like a lot of fun, hopefully I can do one eventually!

  • What you’re feeling is completely normal, every backpacker/traveler no matter how experienced we are always will have some kind of jitters before a trip. I’ve been traveling solo continuously since 2010 and still get those jitters sometimes. I’ts just because we are leaving comfort zones, our brains will try make excuses but just fight through them and you’ll have a blast 😀 😀 – I hope you’re travels go well for you.

    • Victoria

      thank you for this sweet comment! The jitters will probably never go away but getting past them will be easier. 🙂